Are you a people-pleaser? Would you like to let that go?
Here’s a classic example from my life:
Jared (my husband): Where would you like to go to lunch?
Me: I’m not sure. Where do you want to go?
Me: Do you feel in the mood for Japanese, Mexican, Chinese, Thai, Salad, something else?
Jared: Pause. Christie, why don’t you tell me where YOU want to go? I asked you because I’m truly interested in where you want to go and I seriously could go to any of those places.
Me: Uhhhh...How about that one sushi place where we ate last week?
Jared: Sounds great!
You get the point. People-pleasing is usually where a "self-care low" begins.
We often learn this people-pleasing habit from our mothers or fathers as we grow up.
So how do you overcome it?
As a reformed people-pleaser myself, here are the 3 of the top ways I’ve turned people-pleasing into making fulfilling choices for myself and others (while not spreading my energy too thin).
I know I’ve felt much more joy and freedom as I’ve let go of people-pleasing - and actually, people respect me more, treat me better, etc., because how people treat you is always a reflection of how you treat yourself. So increasing your self-love with these three tips is a certain way to help you overcome people-pleasing! I hope this helps you!
Have an epic day today!